I recently had a friend tell me that he knew a woman who was actively searching for an Italian husband. Clearly she was a bit misguided or maybe she had delusions of unlimited wine and pasta in her future. Either way, I can’t imagine ever seeking out a guy soley based on his country. In fact, if I was, I truly think Italy would not be the top of my list. No offence to my Italian male readers, but you guys have got some serious strikes against you when it comes to relationships and women.
I kind of stumbled on my Italian husband and to be honest, his “Italian-ness” is what almost didn’t make the union reach the altar. Now that I have married him, I am more or less stuck with him, and I have never had grand illusions of being able to change him, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t drive men nuts at times.
If I was a bit more astute, I probably would have paid more attention to my sister’s relationship with her Italian husband (yes, it runs in the family…I’ve no clue as to why). You see, he could also challenge her sanity at the best of times, but I thought that it was just “him”. Sometimes I think that if I had dated more than” my” Italian I would have realized how truly frustrating these men can be. But NO, I had to marry the only one I have ever dated.
I don’t know how he manages to do it, but in less than eight hours I can conjure up at least six different states of mind as a result of some conversation, or better yet, misunderstanding we’ve had. I toggle between a state of confusion and exhaustion, but perhaps that’s his intent…just wear me down and eventually I will give in to his will. I wonder if that is how we ended up married in the first place…perhaps he just wore me down until I finally said yes! What is it about my husband that I love so dearly that I am willing to torture myself on a regular basis for? When I find the answer I will let you know.
I’ve heard some outrageous things about Italian men since moving here and personally, I think every Italian guy should come with a warning label. “Beware! Becomes clingy when ignored, whiny when there’s traffic and will ignore you as soon as you pay any attention to him”. Perhaps I should call this gal up and give her a talking to and try to snap some sense into her!